4 Reasons To Stay No Contact from a Narcissist

hey guys this is M from narcissistic
abuse rehab my topic for today is stay no contact no contact is a solution
that's helped many survivors of narcissistic abuse achieve total healing
the survivor suffers all ties with the narcissist so that they can process the
relationship and apply themselves to whatever self work is needed to recover
for many survivors no contact is an essential strategy for achieving total
healing from narcissistic abuse it is the most effective way to untangle
ourselves from the toxic emotional ties and cognitive distortions we develop as
a consequence of exposure to pathological narcissism the hardest part
of no contact is that most survivors struggle with traumatic bonding as a
result of the coercive control tactics used by narcissists the best way to
resist the trauma bond is to pull it out by its roots to that end here are four
reasons to stay no contact from the narcissist number one the narcissist is
toxic someone with narcissistic personality disorder has a distorted
self-image nice assists are preoccupied with prestige and power one of the main
features of narcissistic personality disorder is impaired empathy in addition
to this a narcissist develops a superiority complex to shield their
fragile sense of self that is regularly mangled by real and perceived nice
assisting injuries they have a fundamental distrust of people so they
invent a false persona to mirror people they envy and bend them to their will
because narcissists are maladaptive in the best case scenario this will usually
play out as some form of exploitation however in the worst case scenario the
narcissist will psychologically and sometimes physically destroy the person
they've targeted for abuse number two you will lose yourself once a
nice assisting abuser has charmed their way into our lives in the guise of a
false persona they was a very subtle but powerful manipulation tactic on us
called intermittent reinforcement intermittent reinforcement is one of the
most robust manipulation tactics in existence in the context of narcissistic
abuse it is a psychological conditioning program the abuser introduces during the
devaluation stage of the abuse cycle now during the love-bombing phase the nice
assist responds with consistent positivity to the behavior of the target
during the devaluation phase the nice assist responses become unpredictable
the instability causes the target to try harder and harder to get the narcissist
to respond positively you start to crave their reassurance and approval and this
is when your soul mate suddenly goes from hot to cold one moment there dr.
Jekyll in the next there mr.

Or mrs. Hyde today you're the love of their life
tomorrow you don't know where you stand with them if you confront them about
their behavior you will be desolate the narcissist will tell you they have no
idea what you mean it'll become the picture of dumb insolence no matter how
stable you were when you enter the relationship intermittent reinforcement
sends your feelings into flux you will find yourself on an emotional roller
coaster struggling to regulate your feelings you will go from up to down
then up again as your life becomes more and more chaotic you struggle to stay
grounded while holding on to the relationship meanwhile the narcissist is
pulling all the strings to destabilize you modify your behavior and make you
compliant number three you'll get caught in the wheel of dysfunction pathological
narcissists deliberately plant seeds of dysfunction in the minds of their
targets the purpose is to make you compliant to their wins
and wishes intermittent reinforcement can be shape a person's identity as it
cultivates an addict's mindset in the target it is the principle that gets
people hooked on a slot machine or on candy crush saga when you experience it
in a relationship you're gonna feel a lot of fear and anxiety these emotions
cause a lot of the stress hormone cortisol to pump through your body as
you twist yourself into knots trying to understand what's happening to
you naturally you want to get rid of these feelings of tension and unease
you're willing to do whatever it takes to return to the love-bombing stage amid
the ego stroking and soothing you didn't understand that the nice assist was
grooming you and that the love bombing was part of the cycle of narcissistic
abuse if you're with a narcissist dysfunction seems normal and finally
number four you'll feed the trauma bond these manipulation tactics caused the
formation of strong emotional ties between you and the narcissist these
emotional ties are known as trauma bonds trauma bonds are dangerous because they
keep us emotionally attached to the person who's abusing us the trauma bond
is not a part of you think of it as an emotional GPS tracking system the
narcissist is placed in your mind during no contact you learn the tools to help
you dislodge this foreign object from your senses so that it can no longer
distort how you see yourself in the world at large the trauma bond is
painful and difficult to break when you are no contact you have a chance to wake
up return to Kansas and leave that fake Wizard in Oz concentrate on Illinois
stay away from toxic people block their numbers on your phone block their email
addresses block them on your social media block anyone you know whose way to
post about the narcissist exit the nicest the sphere of influence and don't
allow them any access to your mind until you cut off every string you'll never be
free from the puppet master guys that's all I have for you today
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